TED Talk Make Job Search Stress Work for You

TED Talk Make Job Search Stress Work for YouTED Talk Make Job Search Stress Work for You1If youre like most job seekers, youre probably under a lot of stress. But instead of viewing stress as something negative, a new TED Talk reveals that stress is actually good for you, your body, and your life. It makes you stronger, both physically and emotionally, allowing you to form better bonds with people.For years, psychologist Kelly McGonigal had counseled her clients to avoid stress. After all, stress is often called the silent killer. Then she read about a new study conducted with over 30,000 Americans for eight years. The study looked to see how much stress people experienced and how it affected their health. People who believe that stress can kill them have a 43 percent higher chance of dying than those who didnt think the saatkorn way. Case in point Those who had stress but didnt view it negatively had the lowest risk of dying.Believing that stress can kill you actually can. Over 20,0 00 deaths a year happen from a stress-related incident, making stress the 15th biggest killer of Americans in the United States, killing even more people than HIV/AIDS, homicide, or even skin cancer. Chronic stress is linked to cardiovascular disease.Rethink Your Opinion of StressSince stress is always going to be a part of your life, the way to survive- and thrive- is to change your perspective about stress. A second stress study conducted by Harvard University found that when people changed their views on stress, a remarkable thing happened. They did better. Instead of having their blood vessels constrict (as they do when youre under a lot of negative stress), they were relaxed.In fact, having your blood vessels wide open is what happens when you are in moments of joy- and courage. So viewing stress as a positive thing- i.e., your heart pounding is preparing you for action, and breathing harder is a sign that more oxygen is going to your brain- can mean all the difference between having a heart attack at 50 and living well into your 90s, according to McGonigal.Stress and SociabilityA third and final study discovered something even more interesting. Stress makes you social. When youre stressed, the body releases oxytocin, which stimulates you to crave physical contact, allows you to be more empathetic, and makes you more willing to help others. Oxytocin is a stress response, just as much as adrenaline is.And it does something even cooler- it helps heart cells regenerate and recover from any stress-induced damage. Essentially, your body has a built-in system to help you deal with and recover from stress- and that is achieved through philanthropisch connection. As McGonigal stated in her TED Talk, Caring for others creates resilience.Stress gets you moving, but instead of viewing it as a negative, view stress in a positive light, suggest McGonigal. Stress gives us access to our hearts, says McGonigal. Your pounding physical heart gives you the strength and ener gy to move forward. You can trust yourself to handle lifes challenges and youre remembering that you dont have to face them alone.Readers, how do you handle your stress? Does this Ted Talk affect how you will handle your own stress in the future? Let us know in the comments section below

This is what Anna Wintour says you should wear to a job interview

This is what Anna Wintour says you should wear to a job interviewThis is what Anna Wintour says you should wear to a job interviewAnna Wintour is arguably the most powerful person in fashion as she continues to reign supreme as the Editor in Chief of Vogue. Books have been written about her (or thinly veiled versions of her), movies and documentaries abound and though it weighs more than a newborn baby, the Vogue September Issue is still required reading for many households.So, wouldnt you want to know what the woman who can end a designers career in one look thinks you should wear to a job interview at Vogue?Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreLuckily you dont have to wonder anymore because in the new video series, Ask Anna, someone asks that very question for you (which means you dont have to be in the presence of that icy stare.) Here was her answerIts so interesting to me how pe ople dress when they come in for interviews, Wintour says in the video. Sometimes you feel theyre wearing clothes that they just bought that morning, or maybe the night before, and not something that in any way suits their personality and who they are. I think what everyone should remember, whether theyre interviewing atVogueor indeed anywhere, that were not hiring your wardrobe. Your wardrobe is not going to be doing the job for you - its who you are.But what does that mean exactly? Wintour continues, Ill always remember a young man who came in in a dress and a handbag, and I gave him the job on the spot. You have to dress for yourself. Its the same for any job you might be going for. I think it doesnt do yourself a service to fake it.So there it is. Simple as that. Dress authentically as you if you are trying to sell yourself. Of course, a job at Vogue is very different than a law or finance firm but even if you are wearing a suit or pencil skirt landsee if there is a small part you can add to it that is all you. Maybe a small accessory or pop of color.Watch the full video here for more Anna Wintour tidbits.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

1 phrase is keeping women from promotions raises. Lets stop saying it

1 phrase is keeping women from promotions raises. Lets stop saying it1 phrase is keeping women from promotions raises. Lets stop saying itWomen are bedrngnisorious people pleasers. We say yes to functions for which weve no time - and we somehow make the time to go toeverythingwitheveryone. We include everyone in plans to avoid hurting anyone, despite existing tensions they may have with each otzu sich. We take on tasks that arent at all in ur job descriptions (readmother-management syndrome). We say sorry when someone interrupts us, even though were bedrngnis at all at fault.We give everyone else creditfor the work we did, sometimes, almost entirely on our own. And we seldom make moves with our own best interest in mind, at least not without considering how our decisions might impact those around us.Thats why when people congratulate us on our accomplishments or thank us for ourhard work, were quick to say Oh, I couldnt have done it without the support of fill in the name(s) of so meone who offered some or even no real help at all.Sure, thats not true forallwomen. But what is true for all women is the fact that, when we dont please people, were perceived as less likeable. Studies show that when women arent so agreeable - when we stand up for ourselves, demandrespect, ask for what we deserve - were deemed abrasive, and out for ourselves, and bossy, and too aggressive and a whole string of negative adjectives.The reason for this pushback lies in many of the unconscious assumptions we all hold about women and men,Sheryl Sandberg, the chief operating officer of facebook inc and the founder ofLean In,writes forThe Wall Street Journal. We expect men to be assertive, look out for themselves, and lobby for more - so theres little downside when they do it. But women must be communal and collaborative, nurturing and giving, focused on the team and not themselves, lest they be viewed as self-absorbed. So when a woman advocates for herself, people often see her unfavo rably.Its no surprise, then, that only eight of the 100 most-loved CEOs in America are women. In-N-Out Burgers Lynsi Snyder, Wegmans Colleen Wegman, Taylor Morrisons Sheryl Palmer, KPMGs Lynne Doughtie, Enterprise Holdings Pamela Nicholson, Progressive Insurances Tricia Griffith, Deloittes Cathy Engelbert, and GMs Mary Barra were the only women to makethe 100 most popular CEOslist.Female CEOs arent the only ones under scrutiny, however. Women in all levels are deemed lesslikablewhen they speak up for themselves. It starts for female graduates right out of the gate.A Rutgers University studyfound that women who promote themselves are less hirable. In fact, when women seek their firstjobsafter college, likability is more important than their magna cum laude diplomas in interviews, research from the Ohio State University suggests. Hiring managers gravitate toward women who are moderate achievers described as social and outgoing, and they view high-achieving women with more skepticism. The saatkorn cant be said for male candidates.When they do step foot into the working world, little changes. According toresearch by McKinsey Co. andLean In, which surveyed 132 companies employing more than 4.6 million people, women do indeed negotiate for promotions and raisesmore oftenthan men do, but theyre far less likely to receive them. Theyre less likely largely because people like them less for it. According to the research, women who negotiate are 30 percent more likely than men who negotiate to receive feedback that they are intimidating, too aggressive or bossy - and they are 67 percent more likely than women who dont negotiate at all to receive the same negative feedback.Another study conducted by Heilmanalso suggests thatsuccessfulwomen working in male domains are penalized when they are perceived to be less nurturing or sensitive. Why? Theyre violating gender-stereotypical prescriptions of modesty. Anotherstudy conducted by Harvards Hannah Riley Bowlesfound that wome n were penalized more often than men for initiating negotiations and, ultimately, breaking the prescription that women are reisepassive.AsSandberg writes Success and likeability are positively correlated for men and negatively for women. When a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less.So when it comes down to accepting thanks and applaud, women are quick to share the credit or pass it off entirely, not wholly believing that theyre deserving of it themselves.When this happens for a woman whoisindeed deserving of credit, its called impostor syndrome, which refers to the concept that an individual - usually a woman - internalizes their accomplishments due to the fear of being exposed as a fraud. Theimposter syndrome that plagues women in workplaces across all industries is immensely damaging the feeling of unworthiness can actually manifest self-fulfilling prophecies and perpetuate the false notion that wom en are indeed inherently less worthy of success than men.Women give more credit to their male teammates and take less credit themselves unless their role in bringing about the performance outcome is irrefutably clear or they are given explicit information about their likely task competence, researchers Michelle C. Haynes and Madeline E. Heilman say of theirstudythat found women to be less likely to take credit for their roles in group work.Heres the obvious truth Womenareworthy. Women are worthy of respect, of equal credit, ofequal pay, of equal opportunities,and of equal futures as their equal counterparts. And despite the fact that women may be penalized to just say thanks when someone applauds their work, its necessary. The world needs to be reminded that, often (not always, of course), wecouldhave done whatever the project was without help - we just wouldnt necessarily havewantedto have done it without help. We could have because we often do bear the weight of projects, take on others tasks and handle duties that are not our own.Of course, accepting thanks from an I statement is easier said than done given the potential penalties involved. And, of course, its wrong to put more burden on women to deconstruct the bird cage of oppressive barriers (thanks for the metaphor, Marilyn Frye), rather than demanding that oppressors stop oppressing. But at the very least, women need not worry about being likable for likabilitys sake.That idea that likability is an essential part of you, of the space you occupy in the world, that youre supposed to twist yourself into shapes to make yourself likable, that youre supposed to hold back sometimes, pull back, dont quite say, dont be too pushy, because you have to be likable I say thats bull, renowned feminist writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said in a speech when she was honored at the2015 Girls Write Now Awards. If you start off thinking about being likable, you are not going to tell your story honestly because you are goin g to be so concerned with not offending And thats going to ruin your story, so forget about likeability.We dont need to necessarily drop our we mentality - its fair to give credit where credit is due. But we need to learn how to adopt the I mentality, too. Its okay toaccept thanks for the work we did. Andits time that workplaces take on the responsibility for cultivating work cultures that encourage women to speak up and promote them for their hard work.- AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solotravel-the-worldtravel-the-worldtravel. She spends her days writing about womens empowerment from around the world. You can follow her work on herblogblog,HerReport.org, and follow her journeys on Instagramher_report,TwitterherreportandFacebook.A version of this post previously appeared onFairygodboss, the largest career community that helps women get the inside scoop on pay, corporate culture, benefits, and work f lexibility. Founded in 2015, Fairygodboss offers company ratings, job listings, discussion boards, and career advice.